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SWFT (pronounced “swift”) is a movement I am trying to start, meant to reverse the damage of feminism, without resorting to spite and hatred, like the MGTOW movement. Women themselves are invited, with enthusiasm, to be part of the movement.
My greatest idol is Margaret Thatcher. The fact she was a woman has nothing to do with this – she would still be my greatest idol if she were male – but the fact she was a woman does enrich my respect for her.
The Iron Lady. She was intelligent, unwaveringly strong-willed, and had great moral character. She died years ago, back when I barely knew anything about her, but had I gotten the chance to meet her, it would have been one of the great honors of my life.
So, you might be wondering why I respect her so much when I am one of those traditionalist ultra-conservatives who believe women should focus on their family more than a career? Well, it’s mostly true that those are my views about the role of women in society, but that is not strictly my view.
I mean, first of all, Margaret Thatcher was a mother. She was a mother, and she raised her kids despite having a job as a public servant. She raised her kids, and she stayed with her husband until the end. She made a family, and she kept that family together, as women should do. So, as far as I’m concerned, as an ultra-conservative traditionalist, Margaret Thatcher didn’t waver at all from what I believe women should do. She did everything women should be culturally pressured to do, and then some.
Even if she’d never had kids, or even a husband, she still would have been a real woman in my eyes. Not as much, but still a real woman nonetheless. Because even if she’d never had kids, she was a woman in spirit, and that’s what I’m really getting at when I talk about ‘real women’ in general. It’s not strictly about having kids, it’s not strictly about being married, although I do believe society should certainly pressure women into doing those two things. It’s about being a woman in spirit.
The Iron Lady is the greatest example I can think of when it comes to being a real woman. She didn’t only get married and stay married, she didn’t only make a family and keep that family together, she was also a public servant who brought pride and prosperity to Great Britain. But it certainly is possible to be a real woman without having a family of your own (though lacking those things does still lessen it). The best example of this I can think of is Mother Teresa.
Mother Teresa, whose real name was Anjezë Gonxhe Bojaxhiu (not that it entirely matters) was absolutely a real woman in spirit, even though she never married or had kids. She spent her entire life taking care of people, bringing people together, and being a source of inner peace for people just by being in her presence. These are things women should strive to be.
Mother Teresa made everybody her family. Everybody in the world literally calls her “Mother.”
Don’t get me wrong, women need to make babies. If all women in the world were like Mother Teresa, that would be wonderful and all, but the idea of a family wouldn’t exist anymore, and we’d quickly run out of people anyway, so, yes, Mother Teresa would have been more of a woman if she’d had kids and married, but she was still, without a doubt, a real woman.
Recently, I wrote a post in which I describe what a real woman is. I tried to emphasize that being a real woman is about being a woman in spirit. Even though I didn’t spell it out, I tried to explain that infertile women, and lesbians, can be real women. Not as much, unfortunately, but still real women. It’s a harsh truth that being unable or unwilling to make children does lessen a woman’s womanhood. Just like how being physically or mentally weak lessens a man’s masculinity. In fact, I think it’s even worse for men. If a man can’t protect or be headstrong, then he really is pretty useless overall. Not entirely the case with women who don’t make families.
The point of all of this is:
Society should, absolutely, return to pressuring women to make and keep families. At the end of the day, our homes and our loved ones are what are most precious to us. Money can never be that precious, possessions can never be that precious. The place we call home is what is precious, and the people we love most are what are most precious. A spouse should be your greatest friend, and the kids you make together should be your greatest treasures. We need these things, and we need these things intact. Women are meant to make and keep both of those things for us – not just men, but all of us, including women.