Love is our life source. Without it we have no reason for getting out of bed in the morning, no reason to eat our next meal, and no reason to breathe our next breath. But sometimes, perhaps often times, we love things and people that also slowly kill us.
This is going to sound strange, and your first instinct might be to disagree with me, but try to understand what I’m about to say. I think people, all of us, feel love in this particular order: second is people, first is the reason we love the person. Look, I know that love is too complicated to simplify it like that, and I know people can love things like nature, occupations, animals, objects, etc., etc. But what I’ve always thought, and I think this will very likely apply to you the reader, is that the love we have for certain people is the love that cannot be exceeded by anything else. The love for family, for children, for a spouse, for a best friend… And I still think this is true, but not technically.
See, there are reasons we love people as much as we do. Our love for certain people is the greatest we’ll ever feel, but I think the only thing above the person is the reason we love the person. That’s why I put things in that order. The person is second, the reason we love them is first.
We are drawn to things about people. That’s why we love them in the first place. Sometimes we don’t really know why we love someone, we just know that we do. Other times, we gladly admit or would rather not admit why we love someone because we know it’s conceited or vain, such as sex appeal (for lovers), or because they are our flesh and blood (for family). No matter the reason, no matter how conceited or vain or even perhaps the need to compensate for something, I don’t think it’s ever wrong to love someone. As long as we love someone, right? We all need love. We all need to receive it, and we should all give it. Even sociopaths, at some point in their lives, needed to be loved. Still, love, in all its constructive, remedying nature, can also be the thing that destroys us and erodes us.
It’s very important you keep this in mind before I get to my main point, because with that being said, I want to talk about the most important lesson I have ever learned, involving this utmost important subject.